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Performance anxiety & Sexual confidence
Almost 60% of men avoid sex due tu performance pressure? Performance anxiety happens when pressure, expectation, and self-monitoring override your nervous system. This programme helps you understand what’s actually happening when sexual confidence drops and how to restore it in a grounded, lasting way.
1 or 4 Session Programme
45 minutes €70 | 4 x 45 minutes €210
This programme is for you if:
✓ You lose erections or arousal under pressure
✓ Sex feels mentally exhausting rather than pleasurable
✓ You worry about satisfying your partner or “getting it right”
✓ Your confidence depends heavily on performance
✓ You’ve tried to fix it by pushing harder
✓ You want a serious, respectful approach — no quick hacks or tricks
Why the Pressure to Perform can affect your Sexual Confidence
Performance anxiety rarely stays isolated.
The first time it happens, you brush it off. The second time, you anticipate it. Soon, your attention turns inward during intimacy: monitoring, checking, evaluating. The more you watch yourself, the less present you become — and the nervous system shifts into vigilance rather than arousal.
This creates a self-reinforcing cycle:
Anxiety → self-monitoring → loss of arousal → loss of confidence → more anxiety.
Over time, this can affect relationships, self-esteem, and even your identity as a man. What started as a moment becomes a pattern — not because your body is broken, but because it has learned to associate intimacy with pressure.
How this programme works
This programme focuses on regulation, awareness, and restoring trust in your body without forcing erections or memorising techniques.
Option 1: Individual Session (€70)
A focused 1:1 session to understand your specific pattern of performance anxiety.
We identify triggers, pressure dynamics, and how anxiety shows up in your body.
You leave with immediate practical tools and a clearer understanding of what’s happening.
Ideal if you need to understand what's happening and how to make some first changes.
Option 2: 4-Session Programme (€210)
A structured process designed for deeper change.
Across four sessions, we:
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Break the anxiety loop at its root
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Work directly with nervous system regulation
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Reduce self-monitoring patterns
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Rebuild sexual confidence independent of performance
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Integrate tools into real-life intimate situations
This option allows repetition, integration, and stabilisation — which is where real confidence returns.
What you can expect as results
Men who complete this work typically experience:
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Less self-monitoring during intimacy
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More stable arousal under pressure
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Reduced fear of losing erections
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Greater presence with their partner
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Confidence that is not dependent on constant performance
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A calmer, more grounded sexual identity
Why? Because their internal conditions changed.
What's included
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1:1 confidential sessions (online worldwide or in Toulouse)
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Personalised guidance tailored to your situation
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Practical nervous system regulation tools
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Structured exercises between sessions
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Clear, direct feedback — no judgment, no fluff
Everything is adapted to your pace and your context.
About Rachael
I'm Rachael Hibbert, a certified sex & relationship therapist and intimacy coach. I help men reconnect with their bodies, reduce sexual anxiety, and build real, grounded sexual confidence.
This programme is designed for men who:
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Want professional guidance without a big commitment
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Need clarity and direction, not long-term therapy
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Are ready to put the pressure to perform in the bedroom behind them.
I’ve worked with men who felt disconnected from their bodies for years.
This programme gives them a clear, accessible starting point.
Common questions
How do I book this program?
1. Click on any of the booking buttons on this page.
2. Pay for the programme securely online. Once payment is completed you will be redirected to my calendar to book the first session.
3. Book your session in the calendar. You will receive a confirmation email.
4. Any questions or issues: rachaelhibbertpro@gmail.com
Is this only for men with erectile dysfunction?
No. This programme is for men experiencing anxiety-driven arousal disruption — even if erections work sometimes.
Is this confidential?
Completely. Everything stays between us.
Will we focus on techniques to maintain erections?
No. We focus on reducing anxiety and restoring regulation. Erections stabilise as a result, not as a target.
Is this sex therapy or sex coaching?
It’s structured, therapeutic coaching grounded in sex therapy principles. Practical, direct, and confidential.
Do I need to involve my partner?
No. This is individual work. Many men prefer to start privately.
How quickly can things improve?
Some men notice shifts after one session. Deeper, lasting change usually benefits from the 4-session programme.
Not ready yet?
Start with the free 7-Day Mindful Masturbation Challenge to reduce some of the pressure.